Kind [of a] B!*ch
Society loves to label people who are bold, confident, and direct as ”bitches”. But here’s the thing—shrinking to avoid that label doesn’t serve you or anyone else. This podcast is about owning your strength, speaking up, and showing up fully as yourself. For most of my life, I cared deeply about what people thought of me. I was the “good, nice girl,” which worked… to an extent. When I pivoted from a career as a professional performer to the cutthroat world of real estate, I struggled with this fear of being called a name for being bold and direct. But I learned that showing up as my authentic self—unapologetically bold—wasn’t just freeing; it was the key to success for me and my clients. This podcast is for anyone who’s tired of shrinking themselves to fit other people’s expectations. Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, stepping into leadership, or just figuring out how to say “no” without guilt, this is the space for you. We’ll dive into stories of transformation—mine, and those of incredible guests who’ve rewired their mindsets and communication styles to make big moves. I’ll share tools and insights to help you show up bigger and bolder in your own life, and, spoiler alert: there might be ruffle some feathers along the way. If you’re ready to stop apologizing for taking up space and start owning your power, this podcast is for you. Follow along and let’s rewrite the rules—together. Liz Hake is a Seattle-based multi-hyphenate...From performing on stages around the world, to building a successful real estate practice, speaking from stages and leading her clients on their road towards engaging and authentic communication is the name of the game.
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Mar 31, 2025
Mar 31, 2025
39 min
This week, I'm exploring the idea of "Circumstantial Type-A" personalities.
Are we only Type-A because we had to be?
If there is another Type-A in the group that we could trust to lead, would we be happy to follow?
I'm sharing the differences and strengths of all types, trying to decide if I am a true Type-A, or if I am indeed a Circumstantial Type-A. I'll also share some stories and set some intentions for how to step back and allow others to take charge to really play with this idea! Come along for the ride!
**Note that this is not about what type is better. This is purely my experience as someone who tends to identify as a Type-A, but doesn't feel completely at home there.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
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Mar 24, 2025
Mar 24, 2025
26 min
If one of your favorite pastimes is replaying a situation over and over so you can figure out what you SHOULD have said, this episode is for you.
I'm sharing a step by step process to get better at responding in the moment because I KNOW you're exhausted by the ruminating.
**note: not all situations require a response and in some cases are not necessary or safe.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Mar 17, 2025
Mar 17, 2025
25 min
This will be a personal one.
7 years ago we adopted a dog who turned out to have some special needs we were not expecting. He has been one of my greatest teachers in boundary setting, saying no, and advocating for his comfort and safety (and everyone's safety!) no matter whether it disappoints strangers.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Mar 17, 2025
Mar 17, 2025
34 min
I did it again. I overcommitted and made plans in advance, and now the time has come for me to follow through on these plans and I am OVERWHELMED.
But someone else just asked me to help them with a project, or to attend their birthday party, or to pick my brain about how to grow their business.
If I cancel or if I cannot help, aren't they going to be disappointed? Are they going to call me a "flake?" Will they think I'm a bitch?
People pleasing is a TRAP. Come with me as I explore how this taught behavior that is seemingly entwined with my personality creates MORE problems than it helps.
I'll share some stories, some scripts, and some lessons I've learned and hopefully it resonates with you too!
Note: I am NOT a therapist. I am sharing convos with my therapist, with my partner, and with clients that have helped me start to untangle this habit FOR ME.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Mar 3, 2025
Mar 3, 2025
27 min
Ever feel the need to fill that awkward silence when you have nothing to say?
What about asking for a raise and following it with "No worries if not"?
How about the inclination to laugh and brush it off when the "joke" is personal?
Today we're exploring the Kind Girl's urge to jump in and soothe, comfort, or give more, even if it is at our own expense.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Feb 24, 2025
Feb 24, 2025
57 min
I'm sitting down with the Queen of Lending, Julie Johnson. Julie is a top producing mortgage broker whose story is captivating and inspiring. She is a true example of how leading with kindness and striving for greatness TOGETHER is what builds an empire.
You'll walk away with insights into how to cultivate a magnetic presence, how to create lasting business relationships, and how to rebound from disappointment or criticism from an industry leader. This one is not to be missed!
Find Julie:
@JulieJohnsonMortgage
Book Mentioned in the episode: "CUES: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication" by Vanessa Van Edwards
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Feb 17, 2025
Feb 17, 2025
43 min
As we work our way towards badass b!tch status, we're all going to bump up against it... The self-doubt, the nagging voices reminding us we're not good enough. You guessed it:
Imposter Syndrome.
Join me as I talk MYSELF through a week where my own confidence has been dragging. Thankfully for me, these episodes are a good reminder for myself as much as they are for listeners.
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Feb 10, 2025
Feb 10, 2025
44 min
Is the pursuit of perfectionism holding you back?
Embrace your Imperfection Era with me! Walk through the tools I use and questions I ask myself when I'm bumping up against the bad habit of aiming for perfection. Stories and musings galore!
AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!
email: Admin@lizhake.com
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
Follow on Instagram: @liz.hake
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Feb 3, 2025
Feb 3, 2025
32 min
In order to get what you need in this life, you're going to need to be able to SELL. It's not what you think. We're "selling" ourselves every day; from negotiating a raise, courting a new partner, asking for an email response, or simply making a friend.
As a pivot-master and multi-hyphenate, I'm starting to see a pattern of strategies that have allowed me to connect quickly and level up, no matter what my current project. Today we'll dive into a handful of ideas that are not found in your typical sales book, applicable to both those in a sales industry or not.
Book Liz for your next event or workshop: www.lizhake.com
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Jan 27, 2025
Jan 27, 2025
35 min
Let's explore the concept of becoming a better b!tch, shall we?
There are a key lessons I've learned (and am currently learning) along the way, and today I'm sharing them with you.
Hope you hear something that resonates!