Kind [of a] B!*ch

We've made it to 50 episodes! One year of creation, musing, dedication and consistency and SO much learning. Today we're talking about the Law of Least Regret and what intentions I'm taking with me into 2026.
 
And with that, we're also taking a break! I don't know what's next for Kind [of a] B!tch, but I'm so glad you are here. See you next time. 
 

I used to be afraid of setting goals because missing one felt like a personal failure. 
 
In this episode, I'm reflecting on how my relationship with goals has changed, what happens when life responds to your effort in unexpected ways, and why I'm learning to trust timing instead of forced outcomes. 
 
This is a New Year conversation about ambition, self-trust, and holding big visions without turning them into rules.

I love discipline. I love effort. I do not love programs that promise confidence and grit through rigid rules and punishment for being human.
In this episode, I explain why 75 Hard looks like mental toughness on the surface but actually trains compliance, not self-mastery. I talk about why control often gets mistaken for confidence, how shame gets baked into all-or-nothing challenges, and why these systems tend to backfire for high performers.
If you have ever wondered why extreme discipline programs never seem to stick or why you feel worse instead of stronger when you fall off, this conversation is for you.

Manifesting and goal setting are often treated like opposite approaches to New Year resolutions, but they are meant to work together.
In this episode, we explore why vision without action leads to frustration, why hard work without intention leads to burnout, and how identity-based action is what actually creates sustainable success. I share a personal story about investing, upgrades, and what really builds credibility over time, including why buying the symbol of success never replaces consistent, embodied action.
This is a grounded approach to manifesting that actually works.
 
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This episode is for the anxious ones. The people who like to over explain, justify, or provide additional PROOF when a simple "no" would suffice. 
 
Today we'll talk about the pressure to perform when setting a boundary. That urge to educate and explain shows up fast, especially when we are concerned with perception. 

In this episode, we dig into a form of social anxiety most people never talk about. It is not fear of people...it's the fear of being misread. The fear of being seen as harsh, cold, intense, or unkind when we are simply being ourselves.
 
We'll explore why this type of anxiety shows up so often for women, how cultural expectations shape our communication patterns, and why so many of us feel responsible for other people’s interpretations. We also break down the research behind the spotlight effect, the real neurological response to anticipated judgment, and why clarity is often labeled differently depending on who delivers it.
 
This episode is for anyone who has ever second guessed their tone, softened their delivery to avoid judgment, or replayed a conversation long after it ended. It is an invitation to stop managing perception and start trusting your presence.

I'm making the case for why we should ditch the New Year resolutions and just start NOW.
 
In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet trap of hesitation and why the New Year often convinces us to wait for a version of ourselves that feels more ready. After spending an entire weekend spiraling about a simple phone call that ended up going smoothly, I'm realizing that the hardest part was everything I imagined BEFORE taking action.
This conversation explores how waiting increases pressure, how fear grows in the pause, and why clarity almost always comes from doing the thing instead of thinking about it. You will walk away with practical tools to take one small step now rather than postponing your life until January.

Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager. 
 
This gauge is how I measure whether giving will burn me out, or build the village and I have been using it CONSTANTLY. 
 
If you're an overgiver-turned-boundaries queen, feeling burnt out, or lonely, this one is for you. 
 

Do we need friction to feel joy?
 
This is an exploration today.. not a fully formed thought, but something that has been on my mind as I come out of the fog of my own tough season.
 
Today we'll explore how the contrast between hard seasons and moments of ease create big moments of joy. Part personal reflection and a bit of neuroscience thrown in for good measure, we'll process why struggle can reset our sense of joy, how dopamine and contrast actually work in the brain, and how to reframe life’s rough patches as part of the rhythm instead of proof that we're off track.

In this final episode of the Audacity series, we're tackling one of the hardest  things to do in a culture that celebrates hustle... REST. In the words of Tricia Hersey from The Nap Ministry: "Rest is an act of resistance."
 
This episode is a big reminder to myself that recovery is the true key to innovation, creativity, and connection. We’ll talk about why it feels uncomfortable to slow down, how rest can be a kind of trust, and why it matters more than most of us want to admit.
 
Thank you for being here!